Thanks for asking - trying to balance life, work and love.
H and I have been chatting almost every day on the phone, which he initiates He says it is nice to be talking like this. And he's as glad as he's not that we're being 'good'.
He accepted my help the other day when his car had to go to the garage. It was going to be a lengthy appointment and he didn't want to wait at the garage. I offered to pick him up and bring him home, then come back and drop him off to pick it up again. It was nice to be helpful.
But on the downside, I got kinda mad the other day. I just couldn't take anymore talk about OW. He was telling me that she was dropping by - and I can't. She was bringing him supper - and I can't. I just got upset. It was an overemotional day to begin with (packing up wedding stuff), plus throw in a few hormones for good measure...but I think he finally heard me. And I made a good point, I'm sure that he doesn't talk about me when he talks to her...
Their 'pause' is ongoing - not sure how long a 'pause' can last...
He's been sick for a few days, so I haven't really seen him. (that helps with the being good!) But I did get to visit yesterday for a few minutes - it was his Birthday. I brought him his card, which I left for him to open after I'd gone.
It was difficult to choose a card - Husband/friend vs. romantic/funny. I decided to go with romantic but not H. When I found 'the' card, it just felt right! He thanked me for the card and reminded me that he still needed time to let things settle.
He is hoping once the house is sold and he moves into my current apartment that he will have some time to just 'be'...And I agree, he needs some downtime - too much happening, all at the same time. He hasn't really had any time to process all this.
