AnotherStander, thanks, just sounding off I guess. It just gets frustrating. I had a vasectomy in sep 11 that w pushed for. We also spoke around that time, she said she felt loved and couldn't imagine being with anyone else. Less than 2 mths later she is confused and no we are in this position. No warning, she even apologised for not communicating issues etc bu suppose I shld have paid more attention to.
Guess its early days for me and the reality of the task is still sinking in. I do need to stop analysing w every move though as its negative energy.
I do want this to work. We gad a cuddle before - she came over and burst into tears that eldest was leaving tomorrow. She said she's no sure she will be able to hold it together. I saids its an emotional time and she can cry all she likes. Made me feel bad that only shortly before I was winding myself up a treat! But thanks to these forums I held it so thankyou. I never thought I wld be relying on website forums as such a big place of support. But it is comforting to hear from people with the same problems - its scary the language etc that a WAW uses - almost like there is a dictionary of what to say when u want to leave your spouse!
Dr was waiting for me when I got home so I can start reading. I get v little privacy so will have to sneak away to read - presumably u don share with your spouse or let them see u reading it?
