You and your W are both going through this push and pull dynamic with each one jockeying for the dominant position. Maybe try initiating intimacy with your W to see what happens. Sounded like she was asking for it.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.