best and worse thing to ever go through

[MrBond]

"I show any of those things when we aren't together?"

You don't "show" these things. You learn them and make them part of your daily life with other people and your W. If you're with her, then you can do something small like compliment her on her dress or shoes or whatever. Just make your compliment and then move on.

The controlling thing is something that ALL WASs say. It's their way of not acknowledging their own responsibility in the problems.