I am doing everything she says to do I still do my chores around the house, still make dinner 3 nights a week - we always spend Sundays together going to church etc.

In terms of her wanting to fix up the house e.i. the kitchen and bathroom my DB coach says to say fine - whatever you want is fine when I am dying to say "HEY IF WE ARE SEPERATING WHY ARE WE PUTTING IN A NEW KITCHEN AND BATHROOM" which is what I want to say but she says not to -- so whatever my DB coach says to do I do it basically. She told me not to go dark just be the best husband and father I can be.

Thanks for your help Cadet
Me-49 W-41
M-9yrs T-15
6 year old boy
She turned 40 and BAZINGA
W gave me the ILYBINILWY speech - Oct 2011 next day she came
out of it for a month like we were newly weds - Distant and cold from 12/11 to 1/12
I Don't love you at all 2/14/2012
I don't remember a day in my life when I loved you 3/31/2012 I want a divorce
Haven't made love since January 2012
Haven't kissed or touched since March 2012
Threatening to call mediator since 6/2012
Still in the same house, separate bedrooms

If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it.
I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!