Thanks again **hugs**, i'm so glad I found this place. I wish I had a spot to call my own in our house, unfortunately I don't. Even tho I am in "our" bedroom and he is in the spare room, he slept in our room the night we had our friends kids over this past saturday (I slept on the couch) and we also share an ensuite bathroom so even if I am in our bedroom, he comes and goes as he likes - he showers in there, all his clothes are still in our room.
I also don't want to avoid or ignore him because that is what I used to do, and I need to do the opposite (180 right). But say after my daughter went to bed and I went into our bedroom (my bedroom) for an hour or so to do some reading, writing, etc, would that be okay? I'm giving him some space plus it makes him wonder what im doing or is that wrong?
Also, should I keep doing the small things (ie, asking if he wants a coffee to go int he morning, leaving the outside light on for him, making his bed). Again, I want to show him I care and appreciate him and like doing these things for him but I don't want to feel like a doormat either. I guess I don't know what my middle ground is right now.
