I came to my senses, slowly but was still pretty stubborn. I started really missing him and started hating my life as it was. I started to see how people were using me and how much he meant to me, and my daughter. I longed for my "simple" life again where I wasn't always on the go go go and rushing around and working all the time and not having any time for my daughter. I guess I was just a little too late. Literally probably within days. He asked me to go to the concert where he "met" her. I really wanted to go but was stubborn so stayed home with my daughter (well we didn't have a sitter either but it was more stubborness).
I saw my therapist this morning and basically she said if I want to continue then to continue as I am doing - wait. Do not ask any questions about OW, or about "us", and just keep trying to show him the real me and that I am not going anywhere.
But if this is what is perpetuating his "affair", then i'm not really sure what to do. I don't want to turn "bitch" on him and stop doing his laundry and supper etc. Even when I was the WAW I was still doing all of these things and was and still am the primary care giver for our daughter.
Our house is for sale, has been for a very long time - over a year. We put it on the market last year so we could start fresh in a new home, just the three of us (so it hasn't all been bad for the past 2 years) but we are in a bad area for sales (train, private road). I love our home and want to stay because we built it ourselves for our daughter to have a nice place to live.
But, it could still sell, heck there are people looking at it today. And if that happens, I am on a countdown of about 2-3 months for when we go our separate ways. And then he has even more freedom but it could also be a reality check for him. But I hope it doesnt get that far. And he probably does not realize that he is not allowed to introduce our daughter to anyone for at least a year after we go our separate ways (therapist recommended).
What should I do while still living together? Should I really consider asking him to move out? I so cannot wait to get that book!!!
