Trying to Save my Marriage

[Cadet]

I came to my senses, so now its my turn to wait.

Can I ask why did you come to your senses?

IMHO he is not going to change unless the pain of changing is less than the pain of staying the same.

Right now he has no incentive to change.

He has everything taken care of by you and she just provides the FUN times which you were not providing if I read what you wrote correctly.

He is not going to believe anything that you say right now.

So perpetuate means that your relationship will go on the way it is until something changes.

You can only change YOU, not him.
DB101.

I hope that explains it.