My story, my progress, my hope

[scaredsilly]

I think "divorce" is the ultimate request for space and time.

[labug]

What are your expectations around taking a trip with her?

I think you said earlier that you needed to focus on your kids and getting your house in order (XW, custody).

How would taking a trip with W advance that?

How does it honor her wish for space?

[Tinman]

I really feel like tomorrow is my last chance to turn things around and make a lasting impression on her. The intent is to celebrate the end of a sad marriage and the start of a new relationship, whatever that might be.

So try and have fun at the end tell her in my heart i dont want divorce and then fade into sunset or should I suggest dating?

Advice?

[labug]

Whose idea was this date?

[Tinman]

The intent of the trip would be to seperate us from everything and just spend time together.

It would not be giving her space as you said. The times we are alone and it is just about us are great but when all the other stuff it is difficult to make that connection with her. I feel like if i wait another 2 months for court to be done without putting any effort toward the R she will be gone for good.

[Tinman]

The date was my idea after we went out and had a really nice time and she said she missed kissing me.

[7720]

From my angle that looks a lot like persuit...do you really want to do that? Have you given her space and time?

[labug]

I agree^^^ but if that's what you want to do and you accept the consequences or can do it with no expectation, then have fun.

This has been a dynamic throughout your sitch here, she seems to come closer, you get your hopes us, she pulls back, you're sad and defeated.

Is that what you want?

Work on yourself and the big issue (which she has told you is the stumbling block in your M) back away from her and maybe, just maybe, she'll take a second look.

Can you cancel the date with her?

[Tinman]

Sure i could cancel the date with her but it is kind of my last alone time with her. So what it sounds like my best option is (in my messed up head) have fun and don't ask about future. Just go on with life and not worry about if she is going to start dating someone else.
Maybe i should cancel but i think that would do more harm that good.

[labug]

I don't think that's your best option, I think that's the option you're going to take.

So keep you emotions out of it as much as you can because it seems you want this to be something that it may not be for her.

What if she cancels at the last minute?