I wouldn't put too much thought into anything she said. She sounds like she's confused as hell. With regards to "doing you a favour" by taking her stuff out of your hair, I've heard something like that too. My W telling me that a divorce would help me get over her more easily. It's almost like they are trying to let us down easy.
"I'm doing all that stuff which will totally mess you up but it's for your own good you know?"
Might be a way for them to deal with the guilt that they surely feel.
Just don't fret over this too much. Focus on what you're going to tell her when she's there.
Cheers mate!
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then