Sorry for the questions but what do you mean "perpetuate" the affair? And I still don't really know if it is an "affair" per say because technically I called it "quits" around middle of April. Altho my therapist said it is an affair because we are still living together.
And I am not sure he is trying to hide it or not. He may have introduced her to some our friends, im not sure and he "hangs" around with her in public but a girlfriend of mine who has been with them says she has seen nothing "between" them. He told his mother a while ago that she was just a friend who he talked to but im not sure I believe it. Hes never been the type to cheat or lie, ever and is not someone who sleeps around. This concerns me as well because in my head I think that he wouldnt really start up something with someone if he wasnt serious. When this first started I asked him if she knew what was going on at home and he hesitated and said yes she knew but he told her it has been over between us for a while which is a lie. He also made a comment of "I fear our drama will push her away". A year ago he said she was an immature little girl!! So confusing.
I suppose at one point I was cake eating too, just not with another man. But I had my freedom and also my family safe and sound at home. Its the mirror effect - he's doing things I used to (constant texting, never puts his phone down, shaving all the time, being out, etc). I came to my senses, so now its my turn to wait.
