Am really sorry if I was blunt saying what I did. In my own sitch I know how that made me feel when people said that to me.
It's not your fault though. Yes like me you'll go over ever little fight yous had thinkin if I'd only not said this or that. Hey it's the past and you were reacting to a situation you were in.
Personally I don't think all is lost for ya. I see positives in your sitch and there could be a reconciliation. But is that what you want? Or is your ego doing your thinking? You've been rejected so your thinking is gonna be all over the place. Take time for you, in that time gather your thoughts. Be honest, your marriage wasn't perfect. I never expected my marriage to be perfect so I can accept the ups and downs but I stuck on there not turning my back on it. For some reason women do. Maybe they expect perfection in marriage. But we all know its not that way in reality.
Why don't ya read my sitch and give me your advice.
Am reading yours and am starting to see the advice am giving you I should give myself but its hard to give yourself good advice.
It's gonna be ok. It really is. Hey you loved someone unconditionally. Well done. Be proud of that. Not many people can or do.
Kevin.
Me-38W-28. M-2 1/2. Together-7 years OM-14/4/12 Told M in trouble-17/4/12 BD-5/6/12 S-5/6/12 ProofOM-17/06/12 Start to change me-31/08/12 EA+PA-14/04/12-now
Am really sorry if I was blunt saying what I did. In my own sitch I know how that made me feel when people said that to me.
It's not your fault though. Yes like me you'll go over ever little fight yous had thinkin if I'd only not said this or that. Hey it's the past and you were reacting to a situation you were in.
Personally I don't think all is lost for ya. I see positives in your sitch and there could be a reconciliation. But is that what you want? Or is your ego doing your thinking? You've been rejected so your thinking is gonna be all over the place. Take time for you, in that time gather your thoughts. Be honest, your marriage wasn't perfect. I never expected my marriage to be perfect so I can accept the ups and downs but I stuck on there not turning my back on it. For some reason women do. Maybe they expect perfection in marriage. But we all know its not that way in reality.
Why don't ya read my sitch and give me your advice.
Am reading yours and am starting to see the advice am giving you I should give myself but its hard to give yourself good advice.
It's gonna be ok. It really is. Hey you loved someone unconditionally. Well done. Be proud of that. Not many people can or do.
Kevin.
You know what feels good though. When I was in my sitch, my then WAS was about the worst wicked witch in the world. It was tone of voice, presense, accusations, eyes, energy all directed against me as I was wrong for her affair. I know how it feels to be a cheated LBS with an unrepentant enabled WAS.
IN my sitch, when I had db'd for like 3 years - one of the best feelings was to "exit the war" with the WAS, and I had a couple of female friends who became girlfriends. After sharing friendly intimacy with each other, it really let me look at the WAS situation correctly, and it didn't hurt me. I saw I could choose to hurt if I went back in there, or I could move on my life and even the "normal" offerings in life are much greater than being in a cheated situation.
