LITB - that's a good ques. What does it look like? I'm gonna have to get back to you on that one. Definitely free of resentment! No displacement of anger, trust in one another. That's just coming from me! (what I would like to bring to the R)
Jbnati - I'm still struggling with this (boundaries). I think I'm going to need to hold off on emotional intimacy instead of physical detachment. I'm a work in progress...
Busting!! how am I? better. At least i don't feel like a semi ran me over! LOL!
Today at MC I brought up my boundaries. More like I said, how can I set my boundaries where I'm not compromising my needs yet I'm seeking my serenity. I struggle to do this when the kids miss their dad and H is making my decision difficult to put forth.
Other issues quickly came up which didn't allow for us to continue with this.
H said, he continues to focus on the kids. he sees that I have other "expectations". he's not there yet. He can finally say that he wants to come back but it's not his goal right now.
This was interesting... H said that he can't fathom the thought of me being with someone else. He can't bear the thought of not being able to see me and kids as often as he does.
I went to an Al Anon mtg and talked to a couple friends to shake off the negative vibe I got out of that session.
All in all, I feel like I'm right back where we started. H- I want to focus on the kids. I don't want to give you false hope, blah blah blah.
I'm so tired of this.
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017
