Well I may have gone against DB principals but maybe not?? Understanding and discerning what is the best path forward is so confusing. I flew back home today and have only had a few contacts, via text, while I have been out of town. By intent I let my W initiate contact then I would converse freely about small stuff. After arriving while driving home I texted with W and stepped out and asked her if I could buy her dinner. She was busy at the time but indicated she would call me when she was done. Just for clarity we are separated and she has her own condo but we have had periodic face time together either with our social group or with family events. I have asked her to dinner before but have tried very hard to not push or seem desperate. Well we did meet for dinner and it was an enjoyable evening. I kept the conversation lite and made it a goal that she would look back at the dinner in a positive light. I felt i succeeded.
Even though my W has not said she wants to work on M she has said we need to work on being friends. I continually ask myself if a friendship is all we get back if i would be ok with that? I must say that several months ago my answer was no, all or nothing. Today, ???
I would rather feel pain then never feel at all... Separated 3/2012 T 34 yrs M 27 yrs
