I deduced that they 1st got together on March 28th, 2009 and throughout that time up till September 27th, 2009, when i accidentally discovered there love notes between each other, i honestly and naively believed that she was occasionally going out with her old girlfriends that lived about an hour away.
She and he were texting each other 4,000 times per month and having about 20 to 30 hours of phone calls per month as well, once i checked out the cell phone bill i was footing the bill for.
Ah, Finally Harmonious Love At Last.....
After i asked her if she was seeing another guy, she admitted it. Contact eventually diminished but then she started texting her 20 year long best friends on again, off again boyfriend. On December 5th, 2009, after i had spent 8 hours helping my clean out her mothers old apartment, we got home and she passed out exhausted and her younger sister who i allowed to live with us was working a a pizza parlor.
At 10:30 p.m. my wifes text goes off and she doesnt budge, so i figure its her younger sister texting for her typical ride home from that part time job, so i checked out to let her know i could pick her up.
It was my wife and that friends boyfriend and she told him.....
I Just Need To Be In Your Arms Tonight Be Cuz You The Only Guy For Me..
Now, its just brought me back to even worse emotions as when i discovered the 2st love letters.
Oh, by the way, that day was the anniversary of our 1st kiss in 2001 which i had made special note of earlier in the morning to remind her of. I truly did remember all important celebratory dates of special occasions.
This is just all pointed out for background historical information.
Then several months later, when she was having lathroscopic surgery for fibromygila or an ovarian cyst, while she was in procedure, i heard a different cell phone ring in her purse.
After confronted about it 2 days later at home after she was in better shape, she said she didn't want me to know how often she was making contact with others.
I wonder after reading what i am writing and seriously wonder why i allowed myself to continue on with all that deceipt why i kept on trying to work Things ouy with her.
Oh yeah. For the 1st 8 years together, i and she seemed to believe that we were still deeply in love and had a great marriage.
WTF????? Where did that go.
But, she confessed that was the last string caught up in her web of lies.
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Me, 55 W, 36 T, 10 yrs S-9 M, 8 yrs 1st D-Day, 9-27-2009, With 1st bf, ea/pa 2nd D-Day, 12-5-2009, With her best friends bf, ea/pa W, AA relapse early 2009-Current W moved out 2-16-2012 New OM 5-2012