Keep breathing...

[mamabird]

It's interesting. My H doesn't like flirty. It makes him uncomfortable for some reason. I can't see that working because it never worked when things were good. Any idea why he might not have liked that? Anyway...

This afternoon and evening I just went about my business in a pretty cheerful way. It's nice to get home so early from work - before 4, groceries in hand. Walked the dogs, cleaned up. Left H pretty much alone but I was in a good mood so things went smoothly.

At dinner time, I asked him if he was joining us and he politely said no. But he wandered into the kitchen when the boys and I were about halfway done. I made something new (a tomato seafood thing) and there was still some on the stove. Offered him some. He said no. 2 minutes later he's tasting it. One minute later he's got a bowl and is standing in the kitchen behind us eating it. Before you know it, he's finished off what was in the pan and what S8 and S6 didn't eat.

Although he didn't sit at the table, he ate in the same room with us, and I think that's a first. He did say he liked it (when I asked).

Made me realize that maybe our little chat last night is seeping in - unconsciously or consciously... I have to learn to expect a lot less at once and be a lot more patient...

I honestly don't think there's anything going on between my H and the neighbor. Even if she were interested in him, he prides himself so highly on his moral character that I don't think he could bring himself to do it. I don't think I've mentioned this on this board before, but back in Dec we had a HUGE fight, and he packed a bag and walked out. Next day I looked at his phone and he'd texted some woman asking her if she was free and by the text it was clear that he'd seen her before.

When I challenged him on it, he said she was a "massage therapist." I've never met a massage therapist who takes clients at midnight, but that was his story. Anyway, he said that he drove around for 2 hours that night and ultimately decided not to go. When I pressed him further he said that the first time she offered him a happy ending and he said no. I am not sure this is the real story.