My story, my progress, my hope

[Tinman]

Mr. Bond,

I don't want to give up but really don't see how I can stop her from doing what she has her mind set on. I have made tremendous improvements in myself and my life. I have given her space only to find her starting to date another.

I guess in a way I figure that my 180 in this situation is not to fight it anymore. No asking her to reconsider and try to hang in there.

She told me that her S's have told her that they like things just as they are and don't want to live with me and my D's again. She has said that she knows she has to do right by them and she will never consider living with another person until her boys are grown. The youngest is 10.

After reading her email instead of getting emotional about it I told her that I understood and that I would support her decision. I really don't know what else I can do but try move forward without her.

She has agreed to have one last night together on Thursday. Dinner and some adult time. I made the request and was very surprised when she accepted. So that is where I stand. I have one last evening with my W and I want to enjoy it as best I can.

I am certainly open to suggestions.
My plan was to enjoy the night with her and focus on being happy and enjoying her company. Then when the night was over I was going to tell her in my heart I do not want the divorce but if it is truly what she wants then I will support her. Then I was going to ask if going forward we could try and date each other and keep all the other life dramas seperate. I am debating on having this discussion or not. I know that she is the only one that can decide if whe wants to have any kind of relationship with me. So maybe I should just enjoy the night and say good bye. I don't know. No I Don't Want to Loose my wife but feel like I am out of options. She said she was moving forward with the divorce papers this week and was happy about it.

Advise?