I think one of my biggest challenges is to be able to react this way when I feel attacked
That was tough for me too. It helps to remind yourself of the harm that you are causing whenever you react poorly. You are taking two steps back every time. Create a mental image that flashes in your head reminding you of that.
Also, always be deliberate when you respond to anything that is said. That means that you take at least 10 seconds to respond. If you find yourself angry, remove yourself from the conversation (politely) and come back to it when you are composed.
Once I got this down, I found extremely rewarding to be the one who approached things rationally. I felt that, for the most part, I took the high road during my W and I's S. It felt REALLY good to be the one who was "in the right" so to speak.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
