To make matters worse a parent at the school today told me to "be careful" around this neighbor - the one who has all the parties. I don't suspect anything between her and H but I know better than to trust her. She is definitely not my friend. One day I will need to tell H how I feel about their R but not just yet.
I admit that I have not read all of your posts. Have you talked about this before? Can you elaborate on this R between this woman and your H?
Originally Posted By: RegretfulLA
I like your advice, Denver, to just love him, because that's all I think I can do right now. Have not read 5 LL but will order the kindle copy today... I know I've made some progress but why does he revert the next day? It's like a spell that wears off and it frustrates me...
Yes, definitely read the 5LL's. Start with chapter 12 and then go back and read from the beginning. I think that you can get a lot out of it... especially chapter 12.
Why does he revert? Because he has been deeply hurt and it is going to take a LONG time for him to even consider being in a place where he can forgive you. Wounds do not heal easily... and even when they do, many become scars.
Remember, it took a long time to get to where you are. It is going to take a long time to fix it. You need to understand that this is going to take time... and that you are going to have to exercise patience.
Consistent change over a long period of time = change that your H can trust.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
