T2, thanks as always for the insight. I really do struggle with the concept of not initiating with W. I appreciate the analogy to a dance and I need to continue to be very observant to her reactions. I do want to back off and allow her the space she needs, and feel i have, but I also want to communicate through my actions, and sometimes through no action that I do care.

I have been working and house hunting in my new city and have been reading and studying Denver 2010 sitch. Emotional on both fronts.

Before I left out of town i had somewhat jokingly asked my W if she would cook me some food for my upcoming hunting trip. She blew me away with a picture text of four meals she has put in her freezer for me. She hates my hunting.....

I wanted to write her a letter while out here but have not been in the best mental state to do so. One piece of advice I am sticking with is that all actions need to be thought out and purposeful....

Thanks all for the thoughts and for sharing your sitch's for us all to learn from.


I would rather feel pain then never feel at all...
Separated 3/2012
T 34 yrs
M 27 yrs