Yeah, I hear ya on that Denver... It's certainly not ideal, but what is these days!
I keep thinking this is like a band-aid... That if I just go ahead and rip it off, it'll hurt like hell for a bit, but that will fade. If I keep on slowly dragging it out... well that's been crappy so far!
7720, thanks for chiming in. I'm not planning on ASKING if she's having an affair, as I've seen evidence that there's at least an EA and almost certainly a PA going on. I'm going to be very pointed and careful in my wording so as not to seem controlling (by reassuring her that she's a grown woman who can make her own decisions, but these are MY PERSONAL boundaries. I can't change her mind, and I won't try to, I just have to do this for me. I'm not shutting the door on the marriage, but I won't continue to be her friend or H as long as OM is in the picture). If she claims I'm not giving her space at this point (over a month without a peep from me), I might have her committed
