But is it o.k if she comes back because of the kids and it would make them very happy? Maybe not...
The best scenario (and in keeping with DB) is for you to make improvements to yourself- make yourself a better, more fun, more attractive person that she can't stand to pass up on. It is of course beneficial to the kids if she returns, but if you don't address the reasons whe left in the first place she will probably leave again.
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One more quick question..I do like to keep in touch with my D's and call them about every night to tell them good night and see how their day was. They have their own phone so I don't have to bother her but is this too much?
It is absolutely not too much, it's completely appropriate. The concept of detaching applies strictly to your spouse. You should endeavor to tighten the bond between you and your kids though, and it sounds like that's what you're doing.
Originally Posted By: 7720
having a hard day today....the other om is killing me...I cant be what he is...he writes poetry, plays music...all I am is dad man a provider...good to my kids...I put so much into that and neglected other things....sigh...
Your W was attracted to you before she was attracted to him. Think back, what was it about you that attracted her to you? You need to become THAT guy again. Don't make this about the OM, you can't be him but he also can't be you. Get back in touch with the old you that your W fell in love with.
