Ill answer your questions in your most recent post in a bit........
Things my H has complained about me to me.
1. He thinks I ask to many questions. Example- He came home from work one day and he had a Band-Aid on his hand. I asked him how he hurt his hand, he said "Nevermind" and I just kept on asking him what happened. Basically he hit it with a hammer. I do not see why he did not want to tell me. Maybe he felt dumb for hitting his hand with the hammer. I really did not think that but when he was coming home with electric tape around his fingers I wanted to know why. -So I am trying not to ask to many questions and just let it go. This is very hard for me because I am very Analytical.
2. He said I always get what I want - He said no matter what happens I always come out "Smelling like Roses" Traffic ticket I get off, we needed money for a down payment on a house I got the money, I get laid off from my job I get a better paying job.......etc
3. He thinks I am lazy - I would come home from work and expect him to have dinner made. He was home 2 hours before me and if dinner was not made I was a bit miffed. It takes me 2 hours to get home from work so I am not home until 7. He is home at 5. I guess back in the day I would get mad, now I just do not expect him to do it. So I get home and I make dinner. I guess I have lowered my expectations here.
4. I ask his opinion too much - I think this may play into the I always get what I want. When he told me that I decided to ask his option about everything. And his response to me is always "do what you want" or "I do not care" So I will ask again and I get the same response. So I get frustrated he is not answering and he get frustrated I am asking. I get what I want because he does not have an opinion.
5. He thinks I do not hear him - This just came up when he said he wanted to leave. In the beginning I did the "don't leave" thing that was before I found DB. Now when he brings it up I do not say much. I am not sure what he wants me to do when he says these things, Pack his stuff? The last thing he said was he wants to sell our house. I did not say anything when he said this. I do not want to sell it, but I also know if we are not both living there we could not afford it. So I just did not say anything......not sure if that was the right thing to do or not?
I am sure there are more, Most of this just came up. I did ask him why he had never addressed these things with me in the past and his response was "I loved you so I would just overlook them" I mean really!! How am I supposed to know I am doing these things that annoy him if he never tells me?
