I probably can't give you an answer that is satisfactory, b/c I am sure it doesn't make a lot of sense to the LBH....but here goes. Compliments from my H were not appreciated when I was a WAW. In fact, I dare say, the WAW who is in an A, will make mockery (in her heart) when the H compliments her bodily appearance. I also believe it is pursuing. So my advice is don't do it.
As for it being a 180 for you......there are a lot of things you could or should have done in the past that would be 180's now....however, it won't work now. That's the valid point in all of this.....what works and what doesn't work. At this particular time in your R, it won't work. Maybe some day it will, but not now.
Your second goal of being affectionate.......like a friend? She doesn't want it. She doesn't want you TOUCHING her! It makes no difference that you would be showing her a 180. Her goal right now is to show you that she doesn't want you in her life! It will take time before she'll even let you be a friend.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
