I'm torn on this AT. I really am. I get why you would want to do this. I am also concerned about how you will appear by reaching out of the dark to do it. I believe that she knows why you have gone dark on her. I doubt that you married a stupid woman. I believe that you are making a statement with your actions.
Lastly, I still believe that she will reach out at some point, and THEN you can make your well prepared statement.
Tough call though.
Thanks Denver! I'm clearly quite torn on this one too... You're right, I most certainly did not marry a stupid girl, but I did marry one who definitely jumps to conclusions, holds grudges like they're going out of style, and has told me a few times how much it upsets her that I never reach out to her or fight for her...
I'm also concerned about how it would look to reach out just to say this, as I'm NOT doing it out of spite (although it may well look that way to her). I guess it's just driving me crazy to not be certain that my position is crystal clear. And knowing her and her ability to keep grudges going, she could go months without reaching out...
