Still together but trying to save this

[PeteWyo]

Thank you for the input. You are right, I was looking at detaching wrong. That makes more sense. I do want to be clear that I am not blabbing to everyone about my W and her EA. The OM was a mutual friend and the EA was made public by his ex fiancee in the form of detailed emails. I'm not judging or dwelling or anything like that, I just want to be clear on the situation and what I am doing about it.