Yes, I am in counseling. I do talk and pay attention. I try not to ask him too much really and just let him tell what he wants to tell. One of his issues is he feels like I hound him too much. Asking too many questions. Result is he doesn't volunteer anything. Yesterday was better. I just left open ended questions that were not really significant. Hoping if I just shut my mouth more I will get a better reaction. I am indeed seeing a counselor. I know my touch issues though. Nothing really new they can tell me I don't think. I grew up in an extremely physically abusive home. I like my bubble. However, that doesn't change the fact that my family in particular one daughter and my husband have touch as their primary love language. Basically, I need to initiate some sort of caring touch for them. Even if I am not entirely thrilled with it. My upbringing is also why I am noise sensitive. So when he starts shouting or the kids start with one another I am simply looking for the nearest exit. Shouting in particular makes me feel overwhelmed, quickly. Thanks for taking the time to read and offer your insight. It does indeed help! Ty for the drill tips too! Ha. I will see him tonight when he comes to keep the kids. Trying to have everything around here done and ready to go so he can just enjoy spending time with them.
