Time for an Introduction...and Thanks

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Hey Brian,
Yeah, you think you're in for a basic, boring Monday night and then...
I know I should have asked him to leave. It's so easy to get wrapped back up in those feelings and I really thought at the time he had been enjoying himself with me and the kids and was feeling that connection too.

Thanks for the support on the texting part. I wasn't sure I handled it well. I have made many things in this process easy for him. Asked my atty questions for him, allowed him access to the house still, participated in holidays as normal, etc. I will not go easy when it comes to my kids. I know my S particularly will be crushed. He is protective of his time with H now as it's so limited, even with me. I can only imagine how he would feel with a "stranger" around during his time with dad. My D 18 will just be angry and I'm sure pull more away from him than she has already.

I don't know how I feel. Mixed emotions I guess. Like I said above, if he only wants my S over to his new place (all 700sq ft, 1 bedroom, 1 bath)because he's tired of driving to his moms then I will find a place to go for that time period. If he knows he wants to be with this person and it's worth what our kids will go through then I just want him to say it. I don't think he really gets yet that people ARE going to get hurt, people have ALREADY gotten hurt and they're the people he should hold dearest in his life.