Just my hardline opinion - you need to stop the voluntary maintenance ASAP. Let her start to realize what life is going to be like without the good man jb around as her safety net.
Me: 43 W: 37 Together: 18 M: 15 D: 8 yrs old ILYBNILWY: March 2011 She Filed for D: August 2011 She moved out: Sept 1, 2011 Reconciled: May 2012 Divorce Case dropped: July 2012