I'm having a hard time with 1 and 2 as well. My only thoughts were because these are 180's for me. Over the last few months, since she has been back, I have BEEN detached emotionally. This is because when we got back together, W refused to talk about the EA from early 2011 or reasons she left. She acted as if we were just supposed to pick up and move on without discussing our issues.
According to her, nothing has changed and she feels "dupped" as I tricked her into coming back. I'll admit, I was emotionally distant and wasn't affectionate enough or complimenting enough. This was because I was holding everything inside because I was fearful of her mood if I brought anything up. Everytime I did, she would get angry and say that she didn't think it would work out. It would go a couple of days, we would be good again, but I would be distant. It was one viscious cycle. I'm not doing that again, but thought little 180s, while giving her space and detaching as much as possible would be good for not only her, but me as well.
