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Now if anyone knows what kind of power saw I should get for basic projects your help would be appreciated.

Ah, this is my kind of talk If you're talking about light to medium duty stuff then I'd recommend getting a nice batt op set. Something like the Skil set (small circular saw, reciprocating saw, drill, flashlight, two packs and charger) will cover a surprising range of projects. Plus you can get additional tools later that use the same packs, I like their palm sander too. Personally I like the lithium batt's because they hold a charge forever, if you let your tools sit for months at a time the nicad packs will discharge and eventually lose capacity. The lithium sets cost more, but they're well worth it. If you're doing heavy duty work (cutting 2x6's or larger) then you'll need a regular circular saw, but the small batt version works great for cutting ply and 2x4's.

I also think I am going to take pics of them having fun and put them up where he can see them. Not only because I would love to see them but really maybe he needs to see what he is missing out on too!

Yes, good idea! Try to get a few pics with you in there as well, make him wonder who is taking the pics

I am wondering though if there is any point to this. I don't really feel like my marriage is even savable at this point. Not in any format. New or old, and to be honest I'm mad as hell. Really, furious. Not sure if I am going to be able to forgive or get past this. How in the world do you deal with someone who is in their own made up world for the most part?

You're grieving the loss of your M. The 5 stages of grief are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. You'll go through them all and not in any particular order, and they may repeat. Totally normal to feel this way, we all do! Just keep in mind that your old M is indeed dead and gone and must be grieved. Moving forward you are looking at a newer, better M if you can reconcile, that is your focus.

At which point do you just let it go? When do you decide you have had enough hurt and cut your losses?

Not until after the grieving process is complete (acceptance). You don't want to make that decision while you're on the roller coaster.

Sounds stupid but typically, even something this minor he wouldn't remember. Anyway, so they talked for a bit. He asked me how my day was, (I started subbing today) and seemed interested.

That's great! But did you reciprocate? You should encourage him to talk while you listen, and be the best listener ever! Lots of eye contact, no interrupting, etc.

Then when he was going to leave he seemed like he wanted to touch me or something but was unsure what to do. I just said good bye and turned to leave.

Good reaction. Sounds like he's in the pursuit part of pursuit/ distance, so if you had reached out to him he probably would have gone into distance mode.

One of my problems is touch. I simply do not like being touched or touching.

Are you seeing a C? You might want to about this. There may be some underlying issues you need to explore.