If you've had that "we're going to date others" discussion then it's great.
It wasn't much of a discussion, it was more of my wife telling me that's the way it was going to be. Basically it was along the lines of "I'm moving out, the marriage is over, there's no hope of reconciliation, the spark is missing and I'm going to seek it elsewhere." I later asked her if she was going to start dating right away as soon as she left and she said she wasn't sure, that she thought she might like to be alone for a while first. Over and over again she said (literally) that there is a zero percent chance of reconciliation. In MC I told her if she could even give me a 5% chance that at least that was something we could work with, but even given that meager option she still insisted that no, it was a zero percent chance. If it wasn't for stories here in which people have heard similar things and still later reconciled I would have no hope at all, because if I was going strictly off of what W told me then basically I already would have moved on and given up on the M. Frankly I don't have much hope we'll reconcile, but a small amount of hope is still more than none and that's what keeps me here posting.
Originally Posted By: labug
I assume the lady friend knows that you would like to reconcile with your W, if that's the case.
Yes, she knows. I've told her about DB and what I'm doing, and that I'm still hanging onto a thread of hope.
Originally Posted By: labug
Or have you decided to move on.
No, not to that point yet. But I'm detaching quite a bit, and have been as dim as is reasonable (we have kids, so going dark is out of the question).
