My Story WAW due to Gaming Addiction

[MrBond]

So that's what she said in the C session?

[twisted9999]

Yes

[MrBond]

Well can't say that it wasn't unexpected. What did the C say to all of your W's rants?

[twisted9999]

Not much basically she just kept saying stuff like thank you for being completely honest. That there is life after divorce and kids are resilient. But she did stress that I am changed and truly believes that I could be the person that my wife was looking for in a spouse. She stressed that we need to be honest with one another and not hide things. But yeah it went as I was expecting.

[MrBond]

So what's next?

[twisted9999]

Well what else is there to do? Other than apply the LRT. I am not giving up hope but all I can do is act as I am now. She is seeing the changes and beloved they are real but she still holds resentment and hate (she said this in the meeting). Will she come around only god knows that. I will continue to work on myself and hope that when she does come around if ever that it won't be too late for her. I truly am in a happier place and I am doing the changes for me.

[twisted9999]

After some thinking and revisiting the meeting in my head. There was some good that came out of it.

She still has not forgiven me even though she said she did. She mentioned holding a lot of hate and resentment. So of purse she can't see us ever together.

She called me a great dad now. Mentioned she finally like the person I am becoming. Proud of me for all the changes I have made. That I shoked her when I didn't take my computer with me and go on like everything was ok. Was also shoked that I actually went and continue to go to therapy. Didn't think I would want to spend as much time as I do with the kids. She also said she would take me back anytime but it would be to stop me from hurting but it would not be fair to me because she could not love me as a husband.

I don't know these comments to me seem like someone confused on what she wants. But I may be grasping.

[twisted9999]

So what should I do? Should I continue my 180 because she is seeing the changes and says she finally respects me that she never respected me. I think her biggest fears was she thought I was stalking her which I was not but my stupid mistake i made a month ago scared her. Or should I employ the LRT and just completely detach. The conversations we have are short and sometimes to the point but I have seen her open up a little and talking about more than just the kids.

[MrBond]

"Should I continue my 180 because she is seeing the changes and says she finally respects me that she never respected me."

Of course they should continue because they are supposed to be for you. Unless you want to go back to being addicted to video games and being a neglectful father. It doesn't matter if they affect her.

"I think her biggest fears was she thought I was stalking her which I was not but my stupid mistake i made a month ago scared her."

Don't "think" because you really don't know if it bothered her. She not with you because of the YEARS of neglect. Not one incident.

"Or should I employ the LRT and just completely detach."

You should be detaching anyway. Detach your feelings from her so you don't get hurt. Concentrate on your kids. For the times that you do interact with her, make sure they're positive and upbeat. Show her a level of independence that you never showed before. Show her the mature side of you. That's the behavior that's going to attract her.

[twisted9999]

So maybe that came out wrong. I mean right now I am nice to her when we talk. Complement her, show her that I care etc. I am not talking about my addiction, hanging with kids. Or should I just be short and to the point. Not being cold but also not being overly nice.

As for the stalking I am talking about why she has been acting funny around me lately. She said she thought I was stalking her and she was somewhat fearful of me and that is why she was acting funny and standoffish all of a sudden. I am fully aware why she left me.