When I got there she was out picking up the girls and I texted her that I was there; I went in to play with our dog...then i saw her phone and looked up the texts to the OM....I know that is a big mistake but what I saw was that they are just friends.
Hopefully you're satisfied now and won't continue down that road, because you will get caught and it will set you way back.
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Also she said some mutual friends of ours would like to take us to their river house and she said she would like to do that....I think I might not do this as this is maybe too much time together?
That's your call, just be well aware of the pursuit/ distance dynamic your W is likely engaging in. If she senses you GAL'ing, she will pursue as it sounds like she's doing now. If you act on that pursuit, she's likely to distance herself again. She's keeping her options open. Try to remain a bit unavailable. Don't answer the phone every time she calls. Take a while to reply to texts. If she invites you to events, by all means go to some of them but you might pass on one here and there due to "conflicts". Don't specify what your conflicts are, just leave her guessing.
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I know I have to take all this with some caution but is this hope?
It is absolutely hope! Just be careful about your approach as described above, you don't want to scare her off just as she's warming up. As someone on these forums has said, it's like trying to feed a squirrel. You have to hold perfectly still as the squirrel timidly approaches you for the food. If you make any small move it scurries away and the whole process starts all over again. But hold perfectly still and it'll come for the food when it's ready.
