Sorry for all the posts but im just trying to stick to the same one as suggested. I just read another post called "Sandi2's 37 rules and I can see some of the things I have been doing without really knowing it and now I am scared to death about the letter I wrote??? Was it too soon? Its been a month since H has "left". My therapist recommended I write it but it talks about our future (my positive outlook) now I wonder if that was wrong? Also, what is 180s? Thanks again.