Quite honestly, I think having your W there is a terrible idea. She's going to go there to show others (not you) that she tried. She's going to feel ganged up by you and the C, then get defensive and come up with a HUGE list of faults of yours. And maybe throw in a line like "I see he's changing, but I don't trust them, etc."
Listen to what she has to say and let the C steer the conversation.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
