3 years aftet D-Day and i finally registet

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Since my son and i went to the festival last Sunday and i told her i truly enjoyed how we liked shopping at the craft booths together, i mentioned i would see if they have any raspberry honey there since she liked it so much last year. She asked me to keep an eye out for either some lavender soap or lavender scented candle. I said, no problem, if i see them, they are yours.

Then i joked about a treat gift that i had done for her 3 years ago for Sweetest Day.. Due to a fantasy she had written about, i purchased bags of rose petals so she could take a bath on them, with the soft velveteen sensation could completely immersing her body, along with rose and scented candles, and lavender body lotions.

I also gave a nice card with a message for her to just turn off the lights, light the candles and enjoy a nice warm bath with the rose petals and then to take a relaxing nap using the lavender scented body lotions.

When she got home with her sister who was living with us, she got completely disgusted and ticked off and said i only did that to have s e x. Her sister started off with the hmmph and disgusting stare at my wife as if WTF was he thinking.

My joke was, "So, 3 years ago i should have just bought you a bar of soap instead of a tub full of rose petals, lol."

She replied,"Dork!!!". That can be her way of being affectionately funny in response or cute.

So, that brings us to this Saturday morning, when i take our son to his karate lessons. She showed up to be there to watch his class.

2 weeks ago when she 1st got back in touch with me after an extended time, she had wanted to get together and talk with me. I asked about what? She replied, everything.

She did not follow through to get together to have that talk on the night she said she would.

So, at the end of our sons karate class, i mentioned calmly without pressure, that since she had originally wanted to get together and talk that i will be open to that whenever she wants to, whether that is this week or 1 month or more down the road. I just told her that i wanted her yo know i wasnt avoiding having that discussion. She said, she knew that.

A couple of minutes later, when we were leaving, i asked if she would like to go to dinner sometime.

She said, things are going goof now, so lets just take things slow for now.

I dont know if that is a good sign, or just more avoidance and delay.

I do accept that though and will wait and see if she follows through with the talk she wanted to schedule. That ball to initiate that is in her court.

So, except for me texting her photos of our son having a great time at Lego-Land for a friends birthday party, i plan on waiting for her to contact me again to come watch our son at this Monday nights karate class as she promised.

One more thing, i have yo have an MRI done and have to get medicated to alleviate pain so i can lay still enough for the scans and she offered to drive me there and back since the place will not let me drive with the medication.

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I miss her so much. She said she changed and a part of her died when her mom died.


She just texted me now at 5:46 a.m. to say she was going to take a bath and eat something and that she was exhausted.

I've been awake for 1 1/2 hours already just thinking about the nice loving things she wrote about me and us just 3 months before her mom got sick.

I replied to her text that i was just thinking about her and asked why she was exhausted.

I resisted saying that i miss her though, but was me saying that i was just thinking about her the same thing and if so, was that a mistake?

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Oh, just for your information, i have read Divorce Remedy several times in the past and am re-reading.it again. *

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I am reading the chapter, Experiment And Monitor Results, up to the, Do A 180 section so far.

I am still trying to figure out if she meant anything specific by her comment Saturday morning when we were leaving our sons karate class, when she declined the dinner invitation by saying that things were off to a good start and we should take things sloe for right now.

I will not ask her to explain though. It's too early yo try to interpret and measure results yet.

Ed

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Read a little more of Divorce Remedy and got past the LRT and after the LRT technique and read more in the book and on this Forum about GAL.

If i get little response, i will keep on writing to keep track of where i started and sny potential progress made.

I would not mind some advice from any of the veterans to keep me focused and on track.

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Well, she did show up for our sons karate class this evening but she seemed distant, so i asked her if she was feeling okay and she just said that she was crabby and moody all day due to being too tired from staying out too late this past Saturday night, which was when she wanted to get a board game from home to bring to her at our sons Saturday morning karate class.

The game was called, Dirty Little Minds, and we played that as a couple when we were 1st dating in 2001 with another couple.

She said it was for her and 3 girlfriends to play, but it seems that is more of the type of game for couples to explore their sexual passion together.

Oh well, i am not letting that eat at me, but just wanted to add in the information about what is or may be going on.

Also, when she visited one of those new girlfriends on Friday night to help her with a rough patch on her relationship with her boyfriend of 6 years that she suspects her boyfriend of cheating on her. What kind of advice would she even be able to offer to her, with her being the potential betrayed party? After all, my wife had multiple affairs.

I am just throwing out irrelevant tid-bits of information right now just to keep posting so someone can offer some support and guidance.

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I ran into a long time friend of my wifes mother at a meeting tonight and kept my answers to her questions about how my wife was doing to point out just that i was doing well with a crummy situation and that i am properly taking care of our son by getting him involved in plenty of positive childrens activities and that it sounded like my wife had made a friend that is helping her out which i was grateful for.

I told her i would prefer we do not discuss anything about my wife too much as i was trying to focus on improving my own life and business.

Tomorrow morning is my MRI that my wife offered to give me a ride to and from.

Dang, her hair color looked more naturally beautiful today than usual. She still is the most beautiful woman i have ever known.

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How ridiculous..... I am nervous about my wife coming over to do me the favor of giving me a ride to my MRI appointment.

She also plans on picking up some cooking stuff, like a wok etc.

Just wanted to mention my feelings.

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Well, she showed up on time to get me to my appointment for the MRI and asked for some money for gas, which was fair enough.

I did ask her about a book that she mentioned to me about 4 years back, which was that Gary Chapman book, The Five Love Languages. I asked if she remembered which one she identified with so that we could relate to each other better, like the 1st 8 years we were together, which she did not recall.

I am not sure if that was pushing or just trying to open better lines of communication with each other.

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I also mentioned that i would like to get back to how well we seemed to relate up to right before her mother got sick, and she said she had some bad moments even during that time, which i believe is quite natural and to be expected.

I also mentioned again that i thought her new friend seemed like a nice person and i probably would like her. She said i may get to meet her someday.