Trying to Save my Marriage

[AnotherStander]

I gave him the letter this morning, put it in his work van so now all I can do is wait and see. I cannot ask him about it at all and im not going to.

Darn, guess I was too late with my advice. Don't expect him to say anything about it, he probably won't. Don't ever ask him if he read it, or ask him if he wants to discuss it or anything else about it. He knows your position, so just back off and don't apply any more pressure to him. If he wants to talk to you about it then by all means discuss it. But don't talk, LISTEN. Regardless of what he says, go along with it. Don't argue. If he says the M is done and there's no chance, tell him you understand why he feels that way and you support whatever decision he wants to make. No pressure, no arguing, no disagreeing with his position. That's pressure, pressure, pressure.

I am going to use this time we are "apart" (we still live together) to work on myself, concentrate on supporting my daughter and supporting and loving him as much as he will let me. Some days its hard, like he doesnt even want to be in the same room but I was like that too at one point Time and patience are the key now (and hopefully my house won't sell anytime soon!)
Does anyone have any tips for NOT crowding him or things I can do?

Pick up DR and read it, develop a list of what wasn't working on your M and do 180's on those things. Work on making yourself a better, stronger, more pleasant person. Give your H time and space. Good luck!