Hi JAS2000, I am also in the same boat as you, living with my H who does not seem to want to try and is also seeing someone else (not sure to what extent). My therapist recommended writing him a letter to tell him how much I value him and our relationship which I gave to him this morning. Have you thought about that? I am also not questioning or bringing up anything about the OW but he is very distant when he is home and the silence is uncomfortable. I am trying to keep the conversations going about things that interest him, our daughter, our home life, but nothing about "us" right now as he is not ready and right now I do not know if he ever will be. Time and patience is key and hopefully it will be the key to put my family back together.
