Is this my GAL, acting "as-if", and detachment working. I have to be patient and find out.
These are changes you are making for YOU. They are not being made to WIN your wife back, that will not work. So keep working on your changes and make them real.
This is a marathon not a sprint. Conserve your energy and keep moving forward. Each day. As time goes along you will see movement because a long jouney consists of many small steps.