You know FY, as I read your posts, it seems to me that your w is not too far gone. Checked out certainly, but the part about being more engaged in the housework and not working out as much, seems positive to me. Those aren't the actions of a person in flight or fight mode per se. Those are the actions of somebody working through some issues.
Stay positive and hang in there. Keep up with the coaches. They can be very helpful!
AJ
Thanks AJ. Your comment helps confirm what I've been feeling; that at least for now, I just need to stay on my present course. I can't imagine she's leaving or filing for D any time soon, and at least for now, there is no OM.
Our house is very comfortable, we're not fighting, and I do half of the cooking and chores. I'm working on improving myself and giving her all the freedom and space she needs. I'm not pressuring her, and continue to improve at not pursuing. Her moving out would be very uncomfortable for her, and I'm not going anywhere.
For her part she has been journaling her cute little butt off, (or writing to her new lover, <lol> I don't snoop) and seems to be working out her issues and showing less signs of depression. I know this could just be part of the roller coaster ride, so I will refrain from doing any snoopy dances for at least another 50 years. If I can still do it at 100 years old, then I will!
She is still very dissatisfied with her life, and by extension me. Hopefully she will "fall in love" with the new me, but I know it will take time, and she has to learn to love herself first.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
