Maybe the other part of this is that if I start putting pressure on myself to know if I love and respect him, then I'm just going to get cold feet and never really give this a shot. I do love and respect him, but there's an enormous amount of pressure right now too -
I'm 40, I have a child, most men I've met have kids - the complications and things that need to be worked through there are ... well, complicated. And I guess what everyone is saying is that it's workable when love is present ...
