Stop the ride I want to get off

[Tumbling]

Labug you asked:
If he never contacts you again, what does that mean to you?

Here's my answer.
1) I will only contact him for admin related stuff and if he answers the house one I sent today then there is no need for more (I did add an opening about using email instead of calling as I respect his space and closed with missing him (probably wrong but I'm a novice) and hoping he was ok)

2) I am focusing on me, found a Spanish class (yay!), keeping busy, trying not to check my phone - basically GAL

3) I am doing my inner work and taking my new Self out into the world. People have already commented this year I am different

4) I am NOT picking up the ball (i.e. not contacting him about us - no let's go for walk/meal, we should talk about R).

So in answer to the question, if he doesn't start coms/pick up the ball then the relationship naturally ends.
I don't have a timeline in my head but what I expect to happen is, by GAL and no longer waiting, I will already be living life alone and be in the right place to move on. And at some point be ready to send an admin email about splitting assets etc.

I am walking my path, it's up to him if he wants to join me.

Have I dropped the rope?
I don't know. I just know that I'm not interested in more of the same.

I also know that if he does get in contact I will need alot of help from you all to stay on my path, express myself gently, take R sloooowwwer than the other times.

But if I'm honest I don't expect him to pick the ball up, understand his role in our breakdown and want to do the work that I am doing on me.

I like this no expectations thing - very freeing

Tumbling