Did your W ever speak to someone about these issues? Right now she doesn't see there being and issue because she didn't learn to open up before. She feels "safe" when she doesn't have to confront an issue because she's afraid of conflict. Look up "conflict avoidance" and I think you'll see your W in it.
"I am not hiding anymore and I finally realize that I can't solve all the worlds problems on my own."
That's where GAL and bettering your self-esteem is critical.
"Problem is the person who I want to lean on isn't there anymore."
It's not a problem because you shouldn't rely on someone else to take care of YOUR problems. YOUR issues, YOU have to deal with it.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
