hrm, I am so glad that you went out and had some fun last night. Yes, you definitely deserved it.
I am not surprised to read that he did finally open the card. The man couldn't look at you last night when responding with a negative to the invite because he was sad about it and actually felt guilty that you were going out and would be enjoying yourself.
I admire the way that you informed him that October would be a "tight" month financially. He asked the question and you were very honest w/him. He needs to understand that he needs to "man up" and get w/the program and assist you w/some of the bills that are coming up.
I'm sure your missing "boy wonder" will pop up soon enough. He may act just a little bit different when he does come home, but don't be surprised if the toothbrush moves again. LOL!
Enjoy the rest of your weekend...lord knows, you've earned it!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Well Snodderly I think dear one may be trying to "get even" with me for going out last night. LOL He came flying in here around 5ish, showered quick, found me (monster is back apparently, cause those were definite cranky pants he was wearing!), and barked at me, "You said you have all that stuff for your car coming due next month. I'll pay the electric bill if you want me to." I stood there a second (oddly enough trying not to laugh!) and said, "yeah, that would be nice, but you don't have to, that's totally up to you." He decided he would and I thanked him and told him I appreciated it. In retrospect I should have asked him to pay the cable bill, it's usually more, I'm sure that would have spun him into a higher level of pissed off! LOL
So I went downstairs and was starting to get my Halloween stuff out of the closet, as I suspected H came down (I think he wondered what I was doing down there, and I think he wanted to make it clear he was leaving). He walked out into the garage briefly, came back in and as he was walking by me said, "Have a good evening Heather." He again wouldn't really look at me. So I put on my cheerful voice and face and said, "Thanks you too!" and went about my business. Funny you should mention the toothbrush too, I was thinking the same thing, I'm sure it will be moved faaaaar away soon. Adult teenagers.... *rolling eyes*.... ugh!
On the upside my Halloween decs are looking awesome! Ran out of daylight though will have to continue tomorrow.
Hrm, I love reading your posts. You write in such a way that makes the reader feel that they are right there with you watching the interaction.
I admire and respect your faith too. I think you are doing great!!
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
hrm, No doubt the annivesary card spun him up. He had some time to think about the bills and felt guilty that you were going to take care of them. He's really angry at himself and doesn't know how to dig himself out of the hole he has dropped into. He can't find any reason to be angry w/you, so the flying in and displaying monster mode is all he can do and yet, you still aren't reacting to his behavior.
Yes, they do tend to find ways to "get even" w/us, but the only people they are hurting are themselves. It's very sad when they do this because they are so transparent in their behavior.
I'm sure your decorations look beautiful. So, what shall we dress your h up in this year? Should we play Michael Jackson's song "Thriller" for him? It might get him in the mood for some fun. LOL!
Don't let him get you down...your sense of humor is your saving grace.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I'd like to start by saying I think the repeat button is stuck on my MLCer and was wondering if there may be a repair shop for this type of thing.....
H got home around 11:30 last night, pretty late for him seeing as how he usually "goes to bed" at between 8 and 8:30 (I'm serious, it's strange...). I only know what time he got home because I woke up when I heard him in the bathroom.
When I got up this morning wouldn't you know it his toothbrush far side of the sink! LOL So I put it back in the holder cause I can.
I had a wonderful morning today, and it's another beautiful day here! After church I went to the gym, did the 30 minute thing, then I went to the park and took a 4 mile walk/jog on the rails to trails trail. It was beautiful, and nice to be out in nature.... well until I came across a snake in the middle of the trail!
H was surprisingly home when I got there around noon. He didn't say a word to me. I went back to "my" room and a little while later he came up with the laundry basket full of my jeans. He said, "Here's your laundry, it's not folded." I told him that was fine and thanked him.
Then I decided to mow the grass. I got most of the front yard done before my one rose bush decided to attack my leg. I have a pretty big scratch on it now and two smaller ones above it. I went into the house to clean it up. H was doing his laundry, came up stairs and I know he was looking at me but didn't say anything. He walked away for a few seconds, came back and asked me if I was ok. I said yep, the rose bush just decided to attack me, but I'll make it. He said ok, and hi by the way. I said hi back and then went back to mowing.
Got the mowing done, put in a frozen pizza, showered, and by this time my laundry was ready to be hung. I took it outside and I was almost done when H came out and told me he took the pizza out of the oven for me and asked if I wanted him to finish hanging my laundry. (I know, amazing I didn't die from shock!) I told him no I was almost done but thanks for the offer and if he wanted some pizza to help himself. Of course he said he didn't want any, and of course he did end up eating some. LOL
Later, while I was eating, H came out into the kitchen and said, "I ate one of your frozen pizzas the other night, I owe you one. I'll pick one up when I go to the store next time." Gee, how many times have I heard those words. Only this time I didn't have the usual response. I didn't say anything at all, I just sat there eating my pizza, and you know what, it felt good! I don't know if that was the right thing to do or not, but I get tired of saying the same old thing, just because his repeat buttons stuck doesn't mean mine has to be!
That's it for my latest Crazytown update! We will see what the evening brings!
RH~Thank you so much, that means a lot to me!!!
Snodderly~ He did actually pay the electric bill today, so that was nice... As far as dressing up H this year for Halloween, I have given it a lot of thought and I really don't think he needs to dress up. I think he already wears enough masks and costumes everyday! HAHAHA
What a day! I'm sorry you had issues w/the rose bush...maybe you need to trim it back just a little bit. It definitely was a beautiful day today and the entire week looks good for us. Fall is definitely in the air.
You know, we may just have frost since he offered to hang up your clothes for you. LOL! That offer came out of left field.
As for a repeat button...he's looking for validation and he wants to tell you everything he does when it concerns you. It's almost like he wants you to be aware of what he's taken or used w/the promise of replacing it. Very odd. I don't think you did anything wrong by not responding.
We definitely have to figure out which costume he's wearing, i.e., maybe he will be the joker this year.
I hope your week is a good one for you. Enjoy the beautiful whether whenever you can.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Ok.... so just when I don't think he can get any stranger.... I was folding laundry and he came in behind me and the next thing I know he's all over me! I don't need to paint a picture of what happened next..... Anyway.... later he comes back and tells me he won't be home next weekend. I say ok, thanks for letting me know, I appreciate that. Next thing I know he's out the door and in the car... wearing essentially his pjs (lounge pants and a t-shirt). I'm guessing making a phone call he doesn't want me to hear..... You know where my head goes.... but I just keep praying.... who freaking knows....I really want this roller coaster ride to stop, I'm getting nauseous!
Ok, so I would like to retract the pj thing, apparently he quickly changed into jeans before he left. He's back btw, came into the room I was in and wanted to make sure he didn't hurt me earlier, I told him no he didn't.... again, when can I get off this roller coaster??
hrm, We didn't have a full moon over the weekend, but your h is one frustrated man and he doesn't know what to think of you these days. You've been handling everything he dishes w/a grain of salt and wonderful dignity and grace. Maybe he thought he would get up close and personal just to see where your head and heart are at right now? Who knows, but I'm sure you were one shocked lady! LOL!
It's almost like he's toying w/you like a cat does w/a mouse. Interesting to say the least! LOL!
Can we assume that the toothbrush remained where you left it yesterday?
Have a great day!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Lots of strange interactions going on. Must be the Pluto-Uranus square.
Had one with my H when he was royally PO'd that I did not consult him when I gave our D14 permission to go to the Home Coming dance with a bunch of her girlfriends. Geez, this is a guy that hasn't bothered to even ask about her report cards since he left 3 years ago. I let him have a few truth darts and I don't regret it.
I admire how you're handling your sitch. It has to be extremely hard living with a MLCer.
I think your H's alien costume will do quite nicely for Halloween!
Ran out of daylight though will have to continue tomorrow.