"Why should I consider my husbands emotional needs?"
Because you were the one who wanted to save the M and make things right.
Alright, you say your H has been cutting you down, etc. How do you react? I would say it's time for you to change your reaction to the opposite to get the opposite reaction from him.
Maybe even take a TRO on him. Keep all negative texts from him and demeaning messages. Discuss things with your son's school about the teacher and that the actions of their employee is having detrimental affects on your child.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.