Still together but trying to save this

[MrBond]

" I would love to do some 180s with my wife."

The 180s are for YOU. They are changes in your behavior and attitude that she didn't like. You're supposed to make those changes whether your W is there or not.

You can't keep doing things only for her or to get a reaction from her.

Did you really read DR?

If you did, what is your list of issues that she had about you and how you plan to change each of them? You need to write this stuff out so you can come up with a plan.