On my 7 hour ride in I couldn't stop focusing on our situation and how sad and frustrated I sometimes feel about it. Also wondering how long I'll be able to wait for her to come around. After so many good years together, I feel I can't give up too easily, but I'm not waiting in limbo for years either.
Hi FY,
I'm just catching up on your sitch. My W has been going through what I think is MLC for about 2 1/2 years now. Don't take me wrong, we've had one good year in all of that when I thought we were out of the woods, but since then, she's left me and is now seeing OM.
I also sometimes feel like you do but the thing is, if you take that time to work on yourself, you're not in limbo. In a way, you are moving on with your life, but just doing it alone. Let's face it, if you have been with her for 33 years, you can use some time on your own to figure yourself out. Do some introspection, figure out who you are now and see if it's really who you want to be. Your wife's given you a few pointer about what she doesn't like about you. I'm sure that if you listen to her carefully, you'll get more things from her. Become the best man you can be, and do it for yourself (mind you, I also realise that we are all here to save our marriage and that it's always the first reason we do things). Changes that last aren't going to happen overnight. Take that time for yourself and maybe, just maybe it will save your marriage as well. What it will do for sure is make sure you don't "waste" the next few years of your life.
Cheers mate!
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
