You've gotten some really good advice about how to handle the emails with your wife.
And I love this:
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While I love my W very much, I also am learning to love MYSELF, especially the new me i'm working so hard on... I don't want to look in the mirror and see someone who's weak and will put himself into positions to get himself hurt over and over again...
It makes no sense to have the described 'confront' conversation, until your wife is a real 'audience'. Until the tide starts to turn and she shows some interested in coming back.
And then, if it is your position,(because an ultimatum might end your marriage) you say it in a way that's more like .... I will be interested when there's no one else in the picture. (Note, this is in the AFTER THE LAST RESORT TECHNIQUE...)
So, put your best positive, nonchalant (like starsky said, actually flip will seem weird) foot forward.
