Separated and confused

[jendp]

H dropped the bomb on me 6 weeks ago, he wants a divorce and says that he will not change his mind. I read The Divorce Remedy after the bomb and realize that I went about everything wrong up to that point. Lots of pursuing, begging, and emotional bursts -- everything wrong.

I am GAL and have worked on so much in the past 6 weeks, I feel like a new and better version of myself. I am happy but still on the roller-coaster. Overall this was a big wake-up call for me that I needed to GAL and find myself and my happiness again -- mission accomplished but still working on this daily.

My husband works out of town a lot, no kids, and we have only had minimal contact through texts since he left 6 weeks ago -- all very cordial. We haven't spoken at all. After 3 weeks of silence, he sent a long apologetic text about how he is sorry he hasn't contacted me in a while but thought it was what I wanted since I didn't contact him either. Last text line says, "I will always love you but my decision to divorce has not changed." He stated he is moving some stuff out when he comes home and we need to talk about business matters whenever I want to talk.

Our last conversation was emotional since he had just dropped the bomb and I was at the begging stage. We somehow ended things in a friendly way, both crying and hugging. He has been telling others that this is a mutual split and that we both want a divorce -- this is not true although I did say a few things over the last year that may have given him this impression. I had one foot out the door for a while, but had an awakening about 2 months before the bomb. Realized I really want to fight for this marriage, but it was too late. I have texted about 4 times since he left that I do not agree with his decision and I wish he would reconsider (the more recent text states this in a very low-key way but gets my point across) -- does that sound like I want a divorce?


Now that the ball is in my court for when we talk, I am at a loss for what to say and how to approach this. Do I just stick to business matters or do I try and sneak something in there about the fact that I still do not agree with divorce and don't want this outcome? Since he is telling others that this is mutual, I feel the need to let him know that it is not. He hasn't yet moved his stuff out and I don't want him to. Do I just let him go and hope he snaps out of it? Since we don't have kids and not much reason to talk, I want the communication we have to be productive. I want to save my marriage, HELP!!